Good Day, Let someone else do it!

Part of the struggle with depression is the feeling of being overwhelmed by responsibilities. We
get into the place where even though we can not get things accomplished we do not seek help to alleviate the pressure.

A year ago I started the renovation (which really means attempting to finally complete our bedroom including finished floors and heat after only 20+yrs) of our master bedroom suite (sounds cool when you say it that way) but got derailed by spring coming and the need to try to complete the staining of our house. The constant rain of this past summer derailed the staining so that is not complete yet either. Well now it is winter again and I should be working on the bedroom. Work is so hectic right now I hardly have any energy or inspiration to start up again but I really owe it to my wife to finish this and finish it right. This is where letting someone else help comes in.

Today I had a good friend, who is an extremely underemployed carpenter, come over and we reviewed the project. With construction being at a standstill many materials are at their lowest prices in many years. Thanks to careful finances and a frugal lifestyle we have enough savings to not have to use credit for this work. At the same time we are helping someone else who could really use the work. The point here is that sometimes we have to recognize that there is a time and place for allowing others to help us with our "to do" list. It really doesn't matter if it is work related or stuff in other areas of our lives, we need to allow others to help when they can.

For me, it is often pride that is the real problem. Afraid that people will think less of me or be disappointed in me, I often hoard my responsibilities so that I will get the credit if and when I finally get them accomplished. Part of healing and moving forward is to let go of these things and today was a great day because I gave it up. Now, you must understand that I know this mans' work and I would be far from embarrassed to have my home worked on by him. This is all the more reason why I should have given this up sooner.

Do yourself a favor and open the door for others to share your burdens, they probably need help with something also. We need to be we not me in order to make it through this life.